When “New Year, New Me” Meets the Blues: Navigating Depression and Resolutions

New Year’s Eve fireworks light up the sky, promises of a fresh start shimmer like confetti, and everyone seems to be buzzing with resolutions. But for those battling depression, the festive cheer can feel like a stark contrast to their inner reality. The pressure to transform, the overwhelming expectations, and the looming “new year, new me” narrative can easily trigger anxiety and hopelessness.

So, how does someone struggling with depression navigate this season of resolutions without sinking deeper into the blues? Here are some reflections and tips:

Acknowledging the Challenge:

  • Validate your feelings. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, unmotivated, or even cynical about resolutions. Bottling up those emotions won’t help. Acknowledge that depression adds an extra layer of difficulty to change, and be kind to yourself.
  • Challenge the narrative. The “new year, new me” message often feeds into unrealistic expectations and feelings of inadequacy. Remember, change is a journey, not a destination. You are worthy of self-improvement at any time, not just January 1st.

Crafting Intentions, Not Resolutions:

  • Focus on small, achievable goals. Forget the drastic life makeovers. Instead, set simple, actionable intentions that align with your current capacity. Starting with daily walks, a weekly gratitude practice, or even just getting enough sleep can feel significant and contribute to progress.
  • Prioritize self-care. Resolutions often focus on external achievements, but depression whispers the need for internal healing. Make self-care a non-negotiable intention. Schedule time for activities that bring you comfort, like reading, taking a long bath, or spending time in nature.
  • Be flexible and embrace imperfection. Life rarely unfolds according to plan, especially when navigating depression. Celebrate small wins, adjust your intentions as needed, and remember that progress isn’t linear.

Building a Support System:

  • Talk to someone you trust. Bottling up your struggles only amplifies them. Confide in a friend, family member,therapist, or online support group. Sharing your burden can lessen its weight and offer valuable perspective.
  • Seek professional help if needed. Don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional for guidance and support. Depression is a serious illness, and seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Remember, New Year’s resolutions are not a mandatory decree. This year, prioritize your well-being, be gentle with yourself, and focus on nurturing progress over perfection. Small, intentional steps taken with self-compassion can pave the way for meaningful change, even when battling the blues.

Additional Tips:

  • Consider alternative frameworks, like “intentions” or “aspirations” instead of “resolutions”.
  • Celebrate yourself for existing, just as you are.
  • Reframe setbacks as opportunities for learning and growth.
  • Focus on gratitude for the things that bring you joy, however small.

How to use self care to deal with your depression

Self care can be very important in your work to thrive in life while battling depression. Make sure you take the time that you need for YOU

  • What is self-care?
    • Self-care is simply taking care of yourself.
    • It can include anything that makes you feel good physically, mentally, and emotionally.
    • Some examples of self-care activities include:
      • Getting enough sleep
      • Eating a healthy diet
      • Exercising regularly
      • Spending time in nature
      • Connecting with loved ones
      • Doing things you enjoy
      • Practicing relaxation techniques
      • Seeking professional help if needed
  • How can self-care help with depression?
    • Self-care can help in a number of ways, including:
      • Reducing stress
      • Improving sleep
      • Increasing energy levels
      • Boosting mood
      • Reducing anxiety
      • Improving self-esteem
      • Increasing resilience
      • Promoting overall well-being
  • Tips for self-care for depression
    • If you are struggling with depression, it is important to find self-care activities that work for you.
    • Here are a few tips to get you started:
      • Start small. Don’t try to do too much at once.
      • Be patient. It takes time to build new habits.
    • Make it fun. Choose activities that you enjoy.
    • Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you are struggling, reach out to a friend, family member, or therapist.
  • Conclusion
    • Self-care is an important part of managing depression.
    • By taking care of yourself, you can improve your mood, boost your energy levels, and overall well-being.
    • If you are struggling with depression, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. There are many resources available to you.

Making a painful day a good day…

Woke up this morning with my back out of whack. I’ve had so many times when this would have me grumbling and pouting and being mad at the world. My depression on these days was horrid. So glad I’m not in that place any more. Got up this morning and made the decision to make the day work anyway. I chose to feel good about the day even with the pain. Even in depression you have the choice to try to feel even a little better or to dwell in the pain. I choose better.

I did have a big smile that the universe also decided to show me I was on the right path. One of my favorite podcasts and coaches sent out an email about this very subject.

Turning around a bad day

I smiled as I knew it was meant for me to share with all of you. If you haven’t heard of them check it out. These ladies are awesome and will make you laugh and learn.

Hope you have a blessed day! What do you do to turn a bad day around? Leave me a comment below.

My pic is what I decided to do. I play with my puppy. He makes everyday wonderful.

Lazy Saturday…

Sometimes you just need time to relax and regenerate. Today is that kind of day. Teddy and I are hanging out listening to some nice music. Took a nap just because. And are just having a pleasant day hanging out together.

How are you spending your day? Don’t forget to take some time for you. Sometimes you need a break.

See you soon.